This first trimester was a rough one for me. It's been totally different from my pregnancy with Caleb in basically every way possible - from finding out we were expecting to telling family to some of my symptoms. I had pregnancy nausea ALL DAY LONG for basically the entirety of the first trimester. I also had this exhaustion that was unimaginable. Some days I couldn't seem to get myself out of bed. These two symptoms are finally just starting to subside, but the first trimester is no joke.
For me, there were a few items that really helped to make the first trimester just a little easier, and I'll share them here because they might help you out a little, too!
Food/Grocery Delivery Services
Because I was feeling so crappy, I was having a hard time getting myself to do anything in the kitchen. Eddie took over a lot of the stuff that really gave me a hard time, like laundry (the bending over would cause me to feel more nausea), and he took over some of the cooking for me, too. But some nights neither of us felt like cooking, so we utilized UberEats (if you want $5 off your first order use the code eats-jenises35ue) and Postmates a lot. I was also too exhausted to brave the grocery store alone with Caleb, so I used my Shipt subscription often to have my groceries brought to me! I also took advantage of Babe Appetite's services and ordered food for Caleb so he had some nice home cooked meals for lunch and dinner. Basically, I did whatever it took to feed us except get in the kitchen myself!
I know it sounds crazy, but my belly was fuller and more bloated at 6 or 7 weeks than it was at nearly 13. My pants were tight right away so I pulled out my maternity pants and started using them. But I also put to good use a lot of swing dresses and maxi dresses. Loose, flowy tops that hid the waistband of any pants I was wearing were also great. But dresses are the best, because anything on my actual belly bothered me. This top is from Knox Rose for Target.
I find that the more water I drink, the better I feel. I'm not usually very good about drinking water, but having an insulated tumbler that keeps my water cold for a long time has definitely been helpful in getting all the water I need for the day. My adorable personalized one is from Creative Sparkles.
Root Touch-Up Spray
I have a lot of gray hair. I'm not exaggerating, I have more than the average 32 year old. It's hereditary, and I have come to terms with it, but I try to keep up with dying my roots because I feel like it makes me look disheveled when I don't have them done. Since it's not advised to dye your hair so close to the scalp in your first trimester, I was suffering with loads of uncovered gray hair. I found this root spray - L'Oreal Paris Magic Root Spray. I use the Dark Brown color. For days when I'm not wearing my hair down and want to cover those gray hairs up, this does the trick in a pinch, and it washes right out when you shampoo!
Especially in the first trimester, to keep nausea at bay, I always have snacks in my bag. Even throughout the rest of pregnancy, I try to always have something in my bag, because you never know when hunger will strike when you're pregnant! Some of my favorite snacks to keep on hand are peanut butter crackers, a banana, goldfish, or a cheese stick. When I was home, these popsicles were a great way to help keep cool and hydrated.
Let's face it - your body starts preparing you for having children from the day you get pregnant. Between increasing my water intake and having to use the bathroom 3 times a night and feeling restless and uncomfortable, the need for a good concealer is REAL. I love Laura Mercier Secret Concealer for Undereye. It's light and does a great job at covering up the unsightly dark circles. I usually dust a little Laura Mercier Secret Brightening Powder over it so it sets and stays put all day.
Again, pregnancy nausea did a number on me. I actually ended up on Diclegis and then later on Unisom (ask your OB before taking anything), but even with the medication I still felt gross half the time. Anything with ginger truly helped. I would steep some ginger in boiling water and squeeze some lemon into it and drink that. I would drink Ginger Ale. I had some Lemon Ginger candies. I also kept Ginger Essential Oil in my purse at all times and would take a big whiff whenever I felt really queasy. I even made my Carrot Ginger Soup in the middle of summer because I figured it would help (and it did!). But all of those things truly helped to keep the nausea more manageable.
I tried Wine Country Soda for the first time when we were in Napa, and I was so impressed with it that I went home and ordered a couple of bottles to have at home. It's not alcoholic, but it tastes better than grape juice. It's sparkling, and it's made of the same grapes as wine, it's just not fermented, so it makes me feel like I'm drinking some bubbly. Definitely a great stand in if you don't want to feel left out on girls night or any night!
Pregnancy Safe Face Wash
I've written before about my routine for my acne-prone skin, but being pregnant, I can't use my BP wash as it's a high concentration of Benzoyl Peroxide. I tried a few drugstore face washes and they weren't doing the trick - I was breaking out like crazy. I met a rep from Sunday Riley at Sephora, and she totally sold me on their Ceramic Slip face wash. I have been using it for a few weeks and I've seen an improvement in my skin - not as drastic as my medicated face wash, but I'll take it!
And there you have it - all the things that got me through my first trimester!
So someone you know tells you she is pregnant. Yay! Congratulations! Woohoo there's another human coming into the world! While it can be very exciting and you want to ask ALL THE QUESTIONS and give all your advice and say all the things - there are some things you just shouldn't say to a pregnant woman.
Pregnancy hormones are no joke. You don't feel like yourself, it's possible you're feeling nauseated most of the day, and you're feeling a little like a beached whale. Your organs are being pushed out of place, you can't control your bladder, and you're feeling extra protective of the little life inside of you. So even if said comment or question isn't really meant to be offensive, pregnant women are on edge all the time, and any one or all of the above factors can contribute to her getting upset over a comment that is made. But these?
These are typically the worst offenders. They come from friends, family, and strangers alike, and they can ruffle the feathers of even the most chill pregnant women. So next time someone tells you they are pregnant, avoid these actions/statements.
You're welcome in advance for helping you avoid a sty in your eye - you know, one of those old wives tales. ;)
On Friday, we made a big announcement on social media. We are joyously awaiting our second little blessing! Finding out was a surprise, to say the least, and to tell you the truth, I didn't really believe I was pregnant until I had been to more than one ultrasound. I guess because we had struggled so much to get pregnant with Caleb, it was just surreal.
Last summer, we went to see our reproductive endocrinologist (aka fertility doctor) in the hopes of getting the process started for baby #2. Since Zika was a huge concern last summer and we had a trip to the Dominican Republic, he told us to come back in January. So in January, we went to see him. After going back and forth for a little bit, I told Eddie I didn't think it was the right time. He was in the middle of a transition with his job, and I felt like the added stress of having a baby wasn't something we needed at the moment. So we decided to hold off.
We went about our lives and figured we would come back to the doctor sometime in the fall after Caleb had started preschool. In June, my husband's work situation got resolved, we spent nearly 3 weeks at the beach, and then I went to BlogHer. We also booked a trip to Napa for the first weekend of August. A couple of weeks later, I realized my period was 4 days late. I didn't think much of it since I don't have totally regular cycles. But four days after that, I figured I should probably take a test, especially since we had weekend plans that involved drinking.
I nearly jumped out of my skin when I saw that there were two blue lines less than ten seconds after I peed on that little stick. I took two more tests just to be sure, then ran and got some bloodwork to confirm that I was, in fact, pregnant. Eddie was as shocked and as thrilled as I was.
My parents were out of town for three weeks in the month of July. I found out the Friday after they left, and we decided to hold off on telling anyone until they were back. We told my in-laws the night before my parents returned, and we surprised my parents at the airport with the news. Nobody was expecting it, and everyone is as surprised and ecstatic as we are!
I'll have a "bumpdate" for you in the next week or so and I'll let you know all about how I've been feeling, but for now, I'm feeling immeasurable joy at the fact that we are growing our little family!
Caleb is excited about his baby brother or sister, too!
To all my teacher friends - don't hate me for the reminder that summer is almost over. I remember being in your shoes.
In two short weeks, Caleb will be starting preschool for the first time ever! It's a half day program, but it's at a school that goes from preschool through 8th grade, which means it functions similarly to a regular school.
I like to be prepared early, so back in early July I made sure to take care of all his supplies so that I wasn't running around in the mad rush during the few weeks before school. Here's a list of what I picked up for him. Items may vary depending on your child's age and what their school requires, but I think across the board you'll find that most kids need similar items.
I think that's everything! Are you ready to start the school year with your little ones?
Dear 18-year-old Jenise,
You probably can't imagine this yet, but yesterday, we turned 32. I know. You probably think 32 seems so... ADULT. But really, it's not that bad.
As a matter of fact, 32 might actually be a prime year for you. In the last year, you've achieved things you didn't think you ever would - like run a half marathon (yes, I'm serious!), maintain a successful photography business while working from home, and reach many women, most of whom you have never met, via your blog. The next year only holds promises of even greater things.
You are married to this amazing man, Eddie (you've actually already met him and been on a date with him, but it didn't work out just yet. Be patient.). He treats you like a queen and loves you probably more than you deserve sometimes. You have a beautiful home you have built together, and an adorable two-year-old boy named Caleb. He is the light of both of your lives. You have a dog named Bella, a Lhasa Also, just like your first dog, Sassy.
The road here hasn't always been the smoothest. But with faith, family, love and support, you've made it to where you are, and you have come out stronger on the other side. But I'd like to give you some words of wisdom, from yourself, a few years down the line.
Love your body. Your body will do some incredible things over the next couple of years. Those boobs you were ashamed of because they grew so fast and were never perky enough? They will nourish your baby for nearly TWO years. They will sustain him completely for the first 6 months of his life. You'll carry your son in that belly that has never been quite flat enough, and there will be nothing on earth that will make you more proud of your body. Keep exercising - your body will do whatever you push it to do - including run 13.1 miles through Walt Disney World Resort. Feed it wisely - stop going through those drive-thrus and eating crappy junk. When you finally start to nourish it well, you'll notice a world of difference. Trust me.
Stop chasing love. Love will find you. Or rather, you will find each other. And it will be sweet, and it will be fiery, and it will leave you weak in the knees. But the day you decide to make it a forever kind of love, will be the day where you are more certain of anything than you have ever been in your entire life. Stop stressing yourself out over love. It will come. And on that note...
Don't put up with anyone mistreating you. This comes to guys and friends. You'll have one relationship in particular that will challenge you and leave you with scars. Don't let those scars get too deep. But if they do get too deep, don't beat yourself up over it, for one day, they will heal (because you will find the kind of love that is perfect for you). Friends will come and go. Friends who you thought would be forever friends will slowly start to fade into the background and new friends will emerge. But anyone who mistreats you or disrespects you shouldn't be in your life.
Don't carve your path in stone. This monumental decision about your career? Go with your gut. You will have a successful run in a profession you love. But you will also find something else that you are passionate about, and you will hone your skills and become good at that. You'll also find that running your home is a lot more work than you ever thought it would be, and you'll adapt to life as a stay-at-home mom, too.
Trust your gut. At 32, it hasn't steered you wrong. It will guide you on everything from your career, to your love life, to being a mother. People will try to give you advice about what you "should" be doing all the time. Your judgement will tell you which way to go. Trust it. You will always make the best decisions for yourself.
Accept yourself. Love yourself for who you are. Don't change your personality because someone else said it was cool to be a certain way. At the end of the day, if you've been true to yourself, you will lay your head on your pillow every night and rest easy. Be your kind, level-headed, easygoing self. You'll appreciate those traits more the older you get.
But most important of all, enjoy the ride. Life is so sweet. Savor every moment. Dance. Read. Hop on a plane. You'll never regret living your life fully.
I was provided with a subscription in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are my own.
I have been an avid reader my entire life. One thing I always imagined as I got older was reading to my kids. We don't necessarily have formal story time every day around here, but I do make it a point to read to Caleb throughout the day. Sometimes it's in the bath with a bath book, or right before we nap. New books are my favorite, and he loves exploring new reading material, too, but sometimes it's hard to figure out what new book to get!
Enter Bookroo, a monthly children's book subscription. They have two options for subscriptions: a Picture Book Box, which contains two picture books perfect for ages 2-6, or the Board Book Box, which contains 3 board books perfect for ages 0-2. Each book comes individually wrapped, and Caleb had so much fun unwrapping them. He kept saying, "Mommy, present!" I feel like this made him even more excited to receive a book as a gift!
Our first box had two really fun books, and Caleb has enjoyed them both greatly. His favorite of the two is "A Dog is a Dog," and he loves to point out all the animals.
They have one month, 3 month, 6 month, and 12 month subscriptions, so there is really an option for every budget. And while this is something great to get for your own children, I also think it makes a FANTASTIC gift.
Why not give a gift that keeps giving for months after a holiday or a birthday? And a gift that will allow them to keep learning and growing for so much time to come? As a matter of fact, I think I'm going to add this to Caleb's Christmas/Birthday wish list right now!
And guess what? If you use the code TOPKNOT, you will get 15% off of your Bookroo Box Subscription!
What are you waiting for?
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We are in the dead of summer around here, and man is it HOT. I don't know about you, but when it is this hot outside, the less clothes that actually touches my body, the better I feel. Yoga pants are impossible, as are jeans. I spend a lot of the summer in shorts and swing dresses, which help me stay cool. So this outfit is perfect for me!
The shorts have a drawstring waist - I've actually blogged about them before. They are so soft and so comfortable. When I purchased them, I knew they would be a summer staple, and boy, was I right. Especially after two and a half weeks of vacation, and a weekend at BlogHer, the drawstring waist came in super handy.
The embroidery on the blouse keeps it on trend and makes the outfit a little dressier. I can't stand tight tops in the summer (hello underboob sweat!). I wouldn't normally pair two loose items, but this was such a fun outfit with so much movement that I couldn't help but be happy about it. The biggest plus was how comfortable it was.
I paired it with tan sandals and a tan choker, along with some colorful sunnies. It's a perfect summer weekend outfit. You can also dress it up with wedges or add some color with some fun tassel sandals. Either way, you'll be easy and breezy.
Tank: Habit Boutique
Sandals: Tory Burch
Sunglasses: Old Navy
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I realized recently that Caleb is 2.5, and I've yet to share about his room with you all! When i first found out I was pregnant with Caleb, we had no idea if we would be having a boy or a girl. But I found a nursery I loved and I never ended up finding anything I liked more. So Caleb's nursery was chosen basically from the very beginning of my pregnancy.
I wanted something that was very gender neutral, that was good quality, simple, and that I could use for future babies. We zoned in on this Restoration Hardware Crib and dresser and purchased it during an end of summer sale. We also went ahead and ordered the conversion kit to make it a toddler bed, but since he has been sleeping well, we haven't made the plunge and switched it over yet.
The walls are covered in wallpaper that looks almost like linen. We purchased the wallpaper at Sherwin Williams and had it professionally installed.
We also knew we wanted animals to feature greatly in the room. The two elephant baskets that hold diapers and supplies are from Pottery Barn, as is the bedding, and the white animal heads hanging on the walls are from ZGallerie.
I originally had my heart set on a rocker from Pottery Barn, but by the time we made a decision, they were majorly on backorder and wouldn't have arrived until after Caleb was 3 months old or something like that. So I found an old fashioned rocking chair on Wayfair, and purchased that for less than $200.
About two months ago, I decided that Caleb's closet needed some major reorganizing. So does every other closet in the house, but that's for another day. With some help and guidance from my friend Jessica over at Thoughtfully Organized, I was able to purge a lot of stuff he no longer needed and purchased baskets to organize the odds and ends in his closet. I purchased all the baskets in his closet at Target.
I tried to utilize some of the wasted space by attaching Command hooks in the closet so we could hang smaller backpacks and items.
These larger baskets are perfect for Caleb's collection of hats and for extra diapers. I also purchased these at Target.
What's your favorite part of your child's room? I'd love to hear all about it!
I shot this look back In February and hadn't gotten around to blogging it, but it's okay because it's actually a perfect look for a summer date night. My love affair with crisp white shirts is never-ending. When I was working, anytime I would come across a white blouse with interesting details, I would snag it and then I would wear the heck out of it.
While this blouse probably isn't work appropriate for most professions, it really is the perfect top for a night out. The off-the shoulder and the gorgeous bell sleeves are just perfect.
I of course, am a jeans queen and love my denim, but denim and a crisp white shirt are one of my favorite looks of all time. While silhouettes may change and fit may change, the look itself is classic and can be dressed up or dressed down. In this case, I paired it with olive green pointy-toed block heels, but this look would be just as perfect with a pair of flats, or wedges, or sexy strappy sandals.
I've posted about these embellished jeans before and how much I love them, but I think the embellishments add the perfect little touch to an otherwise pretty simple outfit.
While we're on the subject of independence this week, let's talk about it on a more personal level. In this day and age where helicopter parenting (it's a thing, I promise, look it up) is so popular and so damaging, let's remind ourselves to be more like America and loosen the reigns a bit. When I was teaching, the one thing I always swore was that I wouldn't be a helicopter parent. And while what you say before you have kids and what you do once you actually have them are two different things, this is one thing I have tried to stick to. And while Caleb hasn't started school just yet, and I don't know what I'll be like once he does, I am trying to make sure he doesn't feel like he is still attached to me by the umbilical cord.
According to the article I linked from Parents Magazine, helicopter parenting means that parents are overly focused on their children. In this day and age where we are so consumed with perfection, we sometimes forget all the great parenting skills our parents had, whether they were intentional or inadvertent. I find that I have to be very conscious and tell myself not to hover. We have been taught to fear so much, danger lurks around every corner. The other day, when talking about traveling abroad, someone told me, "You have to watch your stroller every second or they will walk away with the stroller and your child in it." I get it. We want to protect our kids. We NEED to protect our kids.
But it cannot come at the cost of their independence and ability to do things for themselves.
I think helicopter parenting is a term that is typically applied more to school aged children and parents who are making sure their children succeed at any cost, including completing assignments for them. However, I definitely think the tendencies can begin before school begins, and I am trying to do a few things to foster independence in Caleb that will help him adjust to life away from home and Mommy & Daddy's arms.
He plays independently. A lot.
Momma's got work to do. The house needs picking up. Blog posts have to be written, meals need to be made. When we over schedule our kids from such a young age, they never learn to be bored and use their imaginations. They feel like they need to be entertained at every moment. And I do not have the time, nor the energy, to entertain him every minute of every day. He's got a playroom full of toys of every kind at his disposal. This doesn't mean I won't play with him for a little while, or schedule play dates or take him to do an activity of some kind, it just means I'm not planning every second of his day.
He isn't attached by the umbilical cord.
They cut that thing the second he popped out. Literally - it was cutting off his air supply. There's no need for me to keep him within arms reach when we are in open areas. At the playground, at the park, at the beach, I give him space. If I see he needs help or there is imminent danger, I stop him or help him. But otherwise, I'm letting him build up that confidence. And I'm always paying attention and just a short distance away.
He gets hurt. And gets in trouble. And everything he does is not adorable or funny.
My child isn't always in the right. If he hits your child without reason, I'm going to scold him, but you can go ahead and scold him too. If I tell him not to do something because he's going to get hurt, and he keeps doing it anyway and gets hurt, I'll comfort him, but I also talk about the consequences of our actions. And contrary to popular belief, everything he does is not adorable, and we shouldn't laugh when he does something he really should not do. Is this hard sometimes? YES. But it's important for them not think that everything they do is adorable.
It isn't easy. I've had to make a very conscious decision for some of these things. And I know once he starts school, it won't get any easier. But when he applies for college or a job and stands out because Mom isn't the one doing his communicating for him guys this really happens, like for real), then I'll know we did a good job.
About this Mom
A Miami wife and mom documenting her days with her toddler and all that comes along with it.