Disney and Pixar’s original feature film “Luca” is a coming-of-age story about one young boy experiencing an unforgettable summer filled with gelato, pasta and endless scooter rides. Luca shares these adventures with his newfound best friend, but all the fun is threatened by a deeply-held secret: they are sea monsters from another world just below the water’s surface.

New Disney Pixar films are always big hit around here, and Luca is sure to be no different! It begins streaming on Disney+ this Friday, June 18, and Disney has shared some activity pages you can do with the kids in anticipation of the film's release or once you've had a chance to watch it! Watch the preview and download the files below. Fair warning, just the preview has me wanting to book a flight to the Italian Riviera! 

xoxo, 

​Jenise

A few weeks ago, Eddie came home and mentioned that he wanted to put together "Blessing bags" to keep in the car. I had never heard of this and I asked him to elaborate. Blessing Bags are bags filled with essentials like deodorant, water bottles, a toothbrush/toothpaste, snacks, etc. You keep them in your car and when you see someone who is homeless, you can hand it to them.

Eddie and Caleb took complete charge of this project and Caleb has been very excited to help those who are in need. Every morning he asks me, "Mommy, keep your eyes out for anyone we can give the blessing bag to!" Finally, last week, we had a chance to give one out, and he was very excited. He told me afterwards how good he felt doing something for someone in need. 

Blessing bags can contain pretty much anything you think might be helpful, including, but not limited to some of these: 

• A couple dollars/loose change
• mini water bottle
• a toothbrush (these wisp ones would be a great option since they are waterless)
• socks
• baby wipes
• hand wipes
• lip balm
• a comb
• Travel-Sized toiletries
  • 3-in-1 shampoo/conditioner/body wash
  • toothpaste
  • deodorant
  • sunscreen
• snacks
  • a bag of chips
  • crackers/cookies
  • trail mix
  • other good options include jerky, pudding, and jello. 

Have you ever done these before? Let me know what you included that we forgot! 

xoxo, 

​Jenise

​This is uncharted territory for a lot of us, but we are all making it work however we can. Caleb is on day 4 of virtual learning, and already I have found a few things that have worked and others that haven't. This is by no means smooth sailing, but every day has been a little better, and Caleb's school was so well-prepared for this. His teacher has been a rockstar, too.

​I know that I am extremely fortunate in that I have the flexibility to work at whatever time I need to, but I also have Chloe to worry about and keep entertained, and I do want Caleb to learn to be more independent when it comes to virtual learning. After all, I would not be sitting next to him in the classroom, would I?

His teacher sent home a few tips that were really useful, and there were a few other things I implemented that just made sense for us here at home.

1. Have a dedicated space for them to work every day. Set up everything they need - books, writing utensils, power cords, etc. We had this little stand that has been really great for keeping the iPad in the right position for him. Use a well-lit space. Try and sit them near a window, but if possible, don't put the window behind them - it makes the image look really hazy on the screen. One thing I would change from our setup, I would have a solid wall behind him so there is no distraction if people are walking by or coming into the room. 
2. Have a routine! Just like a regular school day - a time to wake up, have breakfast, brush teeth, brush hair, get dressed, etc. Caleb is required to wear his uniform, which I personally think is wonderful because it helps him get in that frame of mind. 
3. Try to have them removed from the rest of the "action" in our house. The table that Caleb is using as his desk was in our living room area. After thinking about it, I realized he might be really distracted if he was trying to work there and Chloe and I were around. So we moved the desk into their bedroom, where we can always close the door if there is too much else going on in the house (Tuesday, for example, the landscapers were here and the dog started barking.) Which brings me to...
4. Headphones! He has them in there, but because I kind of want to know what is going on, I am only having him use them if there is a lot of noise going on outside of his schooling. 
5. Help them be independent. One of the first things Caleb's teacher wanted us to help them with was to learn how to mute and unmute themselves. This way whenever he is going to speak, he can do it himself and not have to wait for us to go and unmute him. I showed him where all his supplies are, and I leave the room so he knows he needs to do it on his own. 
6. Pack a lunch. Caleb's lunch is so early - at 10:15 am! So I have been packing him a lighter lunch - almost like a heavy snack. Then he has an afternoon snack, and we will do an early dinner. But we have done mini sandwiches, fruit, popcorn, chips, cheese crackers, cheese, things like that. He has a Bentgo box that is perfect for being here at home especially. But packing it means that I don't have to rush when his teacher says it's lunchtime, because it's ready to go. I also plan on doing this for Chloe in the next few days, so I don't have to stop what I am doing to feed her. This is probably especially helpful if you have multiple children in virtual school who have different schedules!
7. Give them time to play and be active. Once school is done, I'm not planning anything for them to "do," but I will encourage active play and try to get him up and out of a seated position. It's super hot outside, but I will try to do some time outdoors, in the late afternoon or in the pool. His teacher has also been good about getting brain breaks in, but if she wasn't doing that, I would probably encourage some kind of movement during his breaks.
8. Be flexible. The first morning we were getting ready to start, the light in the kids' room stopped working. Thankfully there is plenty of natural light, but when he logs on it's still not very bright out. We moved a lamp into the room until the electrician can come out and take a look. Thing like this will happen. Landscapers will show up, younger siblings will come into view, and the dog will bark. The kids will get knocked off their session somehow, and your kid might say some really funny things (On the first day, Caleb mentioned that he was going to go help his dad get the pool chemicals no less that 5 times. I had moms sending me messages all day lol). Just go with the flow and remember that your child would probably say really funny stuff in the classroom, too. You just might not ever find out!
9. Be patient. Our kids' teachers are wading through uncharted territory just like we are. They are doing their best. Administrators are stressed, too. Kids are missing their friends. Caleb's teacher told all the parents on the first day, "Tantrums are normal behavior. What we are asking of these kids is not normal. We cannot expect them to behave perfectly." And I don't think she could have spoken more reassuring words. Caleb's counselor told us in a virtual parent meeting to focus on the positive. Ask your child each day what worked and how you can make the next day better. But praise them for what they DID do well!
10. Remember that this is not permanent. It may seem never-ending, and it may be making us age prematurely, but it is not permanent. The world has survived pandemics before, and we will survive it again. Soon enough, our kids will be able to attend school in-person and have the interaction they crave and need. And we will get to do our work in peace again. 

I'm trying to keep those last few in mind myself. It's not easy, but I keep reminding myself that we are all going through something similar. Deep breaths and lots of prayers! You've got this!

xoxo, 

Jenise

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P.S. Wash your hands, wear your mask, increase your vitamin intake, and get active yourself. Because once we do get back to semi-normal living, you're going to want to be doing all those things. 

​I've talked before about how I have had to learn how to manage curly hair because mine has always been pin straight. I LOVE Chloe's hair, and I have always said that her hair embodies her personality. The crazier her mood, the crazier her hair. I wouldn't change a thing about her, but I've definitely done some reading about taking care of her curly hair because I want to teach her to love and embrace her curls. 

So here is what I do to take care of her hair. 

1. I don't wash her hair every day. I stretch as long as I can between washes. If they go in the pool and her hair was washed in the last two days, I just rinse the pool water out of her hair, but I don't shampoo it. I try to shampoo no more than two or three times a week (this is also because I have spent my entire life washing my hair every single day and I want to help her break that cycle if I can). 
2. Use products made for curly hair. We use JOHNSON's Curl Defining line, both the shampoo and the leave-in conditioner. I shampoo with this whenever I do wash her hair, and anytime her hair gets wet, I apply the leave-in conditioner. 
3. If the curls need to be re-shaped after she sleeps on them, I spray a little bit of detangler in them and carefully brush, starting at the ends and working my way upwards. I only brush where the curls have separated and help to re-form them. I use this brush. 
4. I don't use heat on them. I have blow-dried Chloe's hair fewer times than I can count on one hand. The last time was last week, because I wanted to see how long her hair really was. She looked like such a big girl, but I know that heat causes damage to her hair, so I'm definitely limiting how much I apply her to her hair. 

And that's it! It's easier than I thought! I just had to take the time to learn. I hope this helps some of you out there who have little ones with curly hair! 

xoxo, 

​Jenise

At the very beginning of our "Safer at Home" orders, Moms in nearly every Facebook group I am in started declaring that this would be the perfect time for them to potty train their children, and to please send them all the tips. I had no such intention. I furrowed my brows at those moms and wondered why they would add anything else to their already overloaded plate. I was going to put my foot down, and I was NOT going to be an overachiever. 

At some point about 7 weeks in, Caleb changed one of Chloe's poopy diapers, and I thought, "Maybe it's time to lose the diapers..." But I wasn't ready. So I pushed it to the back of my mind. A couple weeks later, I woke up on a Monday morning and thought to myself, You know what? Let's try this. I gave myself a morning. I told myself, if she gets it this morning and does okay with it, we'll keep going. If she fights me, we'll try again in a month or two.  Well ladies and gentlemen, she did not fight me, so we continued. We're two weeks out and she has done really well. She has had a couple of accidents, but she often catches herself and lets me know that she needs to go. 

My approach was really simple. I had no desire to be complicated, and I used the same approach I did with Caleb when he was just a few months older than Chloe is now. 

Before I get into the actual steps we followed, I wanted to share a conversation I had with Samantha Lambros of Pottyology about potty training. Samantha is a mom of 3 children under 5. She is a behavior analyst and uses the science of behavior to teach new skills and modify behavior. When it came time to potty train her oldest child, she applied her skills as a behavior analyst to train him at 18 months. Her methods are science based and backed and supported by research and proven to be effective across multiple children. She has created Pottyology, a consulting agency for potty training. She has developed courses and shares tips on her Instagram account. I asked her to share a few tips for a laid back approach to potty training, and here is what she suggested. 

• Child readiness and parent readiness are equally important. Don’t let what you see others doing pressure you in to potty training before you and your child are both ready to take on the task. 
• Add a potty chair to your bathroom and just let your child get used to it and explore it. It will become a natural part of the environment and not something new and scary when it comes time to potty train.
• Celebrate successes! Focus on the good and when an accident does occur, clean it up, provide a neutral phrase such as, “pee goes in potty” and move on!

So what did we do? 

Exposure
MONTHS ago, I pulled the potty out and put it in the bathroom. (We have one similar to this.) I would sit her on it every once in a while, and tell her, "Soon you'll go peepee in the potty," or something along those lines. I did this before potty training Caleb and it worked really well, too because they were used to seeing the potty and it didn't scare them. 

Readiness
With Caleb, he had started taking his diaper off and would tell me when he had gone in his diaper. Chloe told me a few times, but it was more of last minute decision for her. I honestly woke up one Monday morning and said, "Let's try it." I told myself that if she fought it too much, I would hold off for another couple of months. I didn't place pressure on myself (or on her) to get it done in 3 days. 

Method
Because it was a last minute decision, I didn't have any panties purchased for Chloe, so the first day I put her in a dress and didn't put anything under. I used my handy Echo or Siri on my iPhone and set a timer every 15 minutes. I also encouraged her to drink plenty of fluids! Every 15 minutes, I walked her to the potty and we sat there. If she had a successful visit, I gave her a couple of mini chocolate chips. You can use whatever motivates your kids. I figured these were harmless enough. I put her diaper on for naptime, and afterwards she asked to go to the potty (chocolate was a big motivator for her!). We continued this through the afternoon. She had just two accidents the first day and realized it right away. When she had an accident, we said, "It's okay, accidents happen," and walked her to the potty and made her sit anyway. 

On Day 2, I extended the timer to every 20 minutes and we repeated the process. She only had one accident on day 2, and she successfully pooped in the potty. We made a big deal about saying bye to the poop as we flushed it down the potty (things I never imagined myself saying #783). We continued to celebrate every success. 

By day 3, she was starting to run to the potty on her own, and her big girl underwear came in, so we started using that. I also extended the timer to every 30 minutes. She had a few accidents this day, but we continued with the same praise (and chocolate, duh) when she did go in the potty. 

On Days 4 and 5 she had maybe one accident per day, even getting out of the pool to both pee and poop in the potty! Over the weekend she had a couple of accidents as well when we were playing outside and distracted. 

During the second week, we continued with the consistency (although we were no longer setting a timer and having her go exactly every 30 minutes), and she did great. By week 3 we were able to leave the diaper off during nap-time, we removed the reward of chocolate chips (we still praise her every time she goes - a high five or a "Yay, Chloe!" does the trick), and at this point, a month in, she is only wearing the diaper to sleep (and no, I have no plans of night training just yet). 

We are still reminding her to go to the potty regularly, but most of the time she will let us know when she needs to go. She has accidents once every couple of days, but most of the time she catches herself before she has a puddle underneath her and yells, "Mommy, potty!"

So there you have it, my quarantined potty training experience. If you don't have the bandwidth to do this at the moment, don't try it. If you don't think your child is ready, don't add more to your plate. The key to being successful is consistency. And if you want more tips, head over to Pottyology, because she is definitely the expert in this field! 

Have you potty trained a child during quarantine? How did it go for you? 

​xoxo,