In case nobody has told you yet, momma. It's okay.
It's okay to feel overwhelmed. It's okay to feel like you're drowning sometimes. It's okay to want to escape. It's okay to cry. It's okay to not want to have to clean up after anyone. It's okay to leave the dishes in the sink. It's okay to take some time to yourself. It's okay to feel like you don't have it all together. It's okay to NOT have it all together. Motherhood is hard. Working moms have it tough. Stay-at-home moms have it tough. Work-from-home moms have it tough. And some times are tougher than others. And it's okay to feel the pressures of motherhood weighing down on you. I've had meltdowns more times than I care to count in the last few months. Call it the terrible twos getting the best of me. Call it overworking myself. Call it trying to be a perfectionist in everything I do and feeling like I'm not succeeding at anything. Whatever you call it, I've been feeling it. And guess what? Until I asked for help - from my hubby - it wasn't going to get better. Until I asked for help with the dishes and the laundry and the picking up and time for myself. I wasn't going to stop having tantrums on par with Caleb's. But the thing is, I don't have to be perfect. I have to be present. I have to be happy. I have to be loving. Perfect doesn't fall into any of those categories. But one day you'll wake up and feel better. One day you'll have an amazing morning with your little one, and maybe you'll be lucky enough to wake up and the dishes will be done, and the house will be picked up. And there's nothing wrong with me, or with you, when you're not okay. But until that day, momma, it's okay to not be okay. Because soon it will be. xoxo, Jenise
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Janet
4/27/2017 01:23:17 pm
Jenise, you're doing amazing! This has to be the toughest job we'll ever have -- no sick or vacation time, no pay increases or bonuses, or 401k, lol -- but it's so much more rewarding than having all of those things. Hang in there and thank you for being transparent because I can bet that every parent has or will have tuned into their the dark side at some point (adolescent stage also counts).
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Crystal
4/27/2017 02:52:37 pm
Beautiful jenise!
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Kelly
5/4/2017 03:39:25 pm
Jenise, thank you for your transparency! As a first time mom to a three month old I can tell you that this post hits the spot. I've cried more in the last three months than I can possibly count. Crying from exhaustion, happiness, not being able to breastfeed, feeding him formula, crying just because I love him so much. Motherhood is a crazy roller coaster of emotion and I'm happy I came across your blog to help me through it.
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