Being confident in my skin has not always come naturally to me. As a matter of fact, I struggle with self-confidence and my appearance on a very regular basis.
Here's a moment that I'll likely never forget and that probably causes some of this deeply rooted self-awareness. I recall being in middle school. I went to a Catholic school with a really strict uniform policy, so dress-down days were a real treat. For one such occasion, I remember I put on an outfit my mom and I had picked out at 5-7-9. I was obsessed with the outfit - it had been on a mannequin and my mom had treated me to the ENTIRE getup. Lime green tank top with a white tee underneath, wide-leg jeans, and lime green sandals that matched the tank top perfectly. I remember walking in the hallway at school with friends, and an older girl walked by me and said, "Ay que tacky!"
It's the first time I recall that self confidence being cracked, like a sledgehammer had been taken to it. It happened, I'm sure, multiple times throughout the years, but none as vividly as this. To me, it's always such a reminder to use kind words and to teach my children to use kind words. Words have an impact. Those three words took me YEARS to overcome, and I don't ever want myself or my kids to be the cause of someone else's self-doubt.
Remember this. Every day, in real life and on social media. Your words have impact. If you aren't using your words for good, then you are causing harm.
And that girl? A few years back I noticed that she started following me on Instagram. She likely doesn't remember that exchange. I don't think she's a bad person - a kid caught up in trying to look cool in front of friends. I’m actually grateful to her for helping me grow my skin a little thicker.
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